We no longer run the discussions on a regular basis, mostly because we’re all “talked out”. We may have the occasional online discussion from time to time, but in the meantime we’re keeping the discussion archives online for your reading enjoyment.
Note that that the discussions are listed in reverse chronological order. The ones nearer the top are (mostly) not all that great, since enthusiasm had already started to wane. You may want to look further back in time to find some of the more interesting chats.
If you have topics you’d like to see us do an interactive discussion on, just let us know using the Contact Us at the top of the page.
In the meantime, happy reading!
- October 16, 2005 — Ending the Sunday Night Chats
- October 9, 2005 — Getting What You Want, Knowing What You Need
- October 2, 2005 — Dropping and Aftercare
- September 25, 2005 — Pushing the Right Buttons
- September 18, 2005 — Ethics in BDSM
- September 11, 2005 — Open discussion
- September 4, 2005 — Online fantasy or Online Classroom?
- August 28, 2005 — Playparties… What Do I Expect?
- August 14, 2005 — Protocol
- August 7, 2005 — Moving from Online to Real Life
- July 31, 2005 — Too Young, Too Old… Age Issues in BDSM
- July 24, 2005 — The Final Frontier
- July 17, 2005 — Qualities of a Good Dom and Qualities of a Good Sub
- July 10, 2005 — Emotions in Submissives
- July 3, 2005 — Sex and BDSM — Two Great Things That Go Great Together?
- June 26, 2005 — The Mainstreaming of BDSM
- June 19, 2005 — Can a Sub Train her Dom?
- June 12, 2005 — Can We Escape The Ghost of De Sade
- June 5, 2005 — Decoy De Toy: Ways to Disguise O/our Playstuff
- May 29, 2005 — More than One on One
- May 22, 2005 — Romance and D/s
- May 15, 2005 — More About Protocol
- May 8, 2005 — Opening Night — Roleplaying and BDSM
- May 1, 2005 — Balancing D/s and Real Life
- April 24, 2005 — Health Issues with Toys
- April 17, 2005 — Early Interest — Things in Your Youth That Led You to BDSM
- April 10, 2005 — Consent: When, Where, What, and How?
- April 3, 2005 — Why Does a Submissive Obey Their Master/Mistress?
- March 27, 2005 — How Accepting Are You of Other People’s Kinks?
- March 20, 2005 — Finding Your Inner Slut
- March 13, 2005 — Pervertibles — Kinky Uses for Household Items
- March 6, 2005 — “The Gorean Approach to D/s”
- February 27, 2005 — Benefits and Risks of Sharing Your Slave
- February 20, 2005 — How to Survive the Loss of a BDSM Relationship
- February 13, 2005 — What Does it Mean?
- February 6, 2005 — Rights of Ownership
- January 30, 2005 — Pushing Limits — When, How and Why
- January 23, 2005 — Start with Respect: finding your Dom/me/sub mate
- January 16, 2005 — Telling Your Friends (and Family?)
- January 9, 2005 — Consensual Embarrassment and Humiliation
- January 2, 2005 — Kinky Uses for Household Items
- December 26, 2004 — Who Is Really In Control… the Dom/mes or the Subs?
- December 19, 2004 — Playparties
- December 12, 2004 — Building a Broader D/s Community
- December 5, 2004 — D/s Fantasies vs D/s Realities
- November 28, 2004 — Being a Single Submissive in a Healthy Way
- November 21, 2004 — Making it Real — Moving from Online to Real Life
- November 14, 2004 — Virtual Collaring… Too Easily Given and Given Up?
- November 7, 2004 — Swinging and BDSM
- October 31, 2004 — Having a D/s Relationship Outside of a Vanilla Marriage
- October 24, 2004 — What does the Dom Get Out of It?
- October 17, 2004 — One or More than One? — Building a ‘Stable’ Relationship
- October 10, 2004 — Branding and Piercing
- October 3, 2004 — The Ramifications of Being a Dom When Dealing with Other People
- September 26, 2004 — Elaborate Scenes
- September 19, 2004 — Subspace — the Final Frontier?
- September 12, 2004 — Overcoming the Stigma of ‘Masochism’
- September 5, 2004 — Open Discussion
- August 29, 2004 — Open Discussion
- August 22, 2004 — Open Discussion
- August 15, 2004 — The Journal as a Communications Tool
- August 8, 2004 — Bringing them Across… Introducing New People to the Scene
- August 1, 2004 — How to Negotiate a Scene with a New Partner
- July 25, 2004 — Training Techniques
- July 18, 2004 — BDSM: What’s Love Got to Do With It?
- July 11, 2004 — Playpartners, Submissives and Slaves… How are they Different?
- July 4, 2004 — Roleplaying and BDSM
- June 27, 2004 — How to Combat ‘Dom Droop’
- June 20, 2004 — Can We Escape The Ghost of De Sade
- June 13, 2004 — Consensual Embarrassment and Humiliation
- June 6, 2004 — The Frantic Search for a Relationship
- May 30, 2004 — Dealing With Chronic Discipline Problems
- May 23, 2004 — Moving Too Fast/Moving Too Slow
- May 16, 2004 — Newbie Night — Bring Your Questions
- May 9, 2004 — Rights of Ownership
- May 2, 2004 — D/s Fantasies vs D/s Realities
- April 25, 2004 — The Journal as a Communications Tool
- April 18, 2004 — First Experiences
- April 11, 2004 — Branding and Piercing
- April 4, 2004 — Training Techniques
- March 28, 2004 — Virtual Collaring… Too Easily Given and Given Up?
- March 21, 2004 — Newbie Night — Bring Your Questions!
- March 14, 2004 — Balancing Sexual Submission with Sexual Equality
- March 7, 2004 — Opening Night — Roleplaying and BDSM
- February 29, 2004 — Learning the Ropes, Gaining Experience
- February 22, 2004 — Consensual Embarrassment and Humiliation
- February 15, 2004 — Newbie Night — Bring Your Questions!
- February 8, 2004 — What is D/s and Why is it Different from BDSM?
- February 1, 2004 — Having a D/s Relationship Outside of a Vanilla Marriage
- January 25, 2004 — Monthly “newbie night”
- January 18, 2004 — Balancing D/s and Real Life
- December 28, 2003 — BDSM and Family Time
- December 21, 2003 — Sex and BDSM — Two Great Things That Go Great Together?
- December 14, 2003 — Introducing New People to the Scene
- December 7, 2003 — Dealing with Disobedience
- November 30, 2003 — Creative Cruelty
- November 23, 2003 — Emotions in Submissives
- November 16, 2003 — Too Fast or Too Slow — Starting a BDSM Relationship
- November 9, 2003 — Balancing Sexual Submission with Sexual Equality
- November 2, 2003 — Educating the Public about BDSM
- October 26, 2003 — BDSM: What’s Love Got to Do With It?
- October 19, 2003 — More About Protocol
- October 12, 2003 — Protocol
- October 5, 2003 — Reading Your Partner During a Scene
- September 28, 2003 — Playparties… What Do I Expect?
- September 21, 2003 — The Nice Guy vs the Nasty Dom
- September 14, 2003 — Contracts
- September 7, 2003 — Dropping and Aftercare
- August 31, 2003 — Open Discussion
- August 24, 2003 — Telling Your Friends (and Family?)
- August 17, 2003 — BDSM in your life: Integrated or Separate?
- August 10, 2003 — Qualities of a good Dom and Qualities of a good sub
- August 3, 2003 — Finding a Safe, Sane and Willing BDSM Partner
- July 27, 2003 — Too Young, Too Old… Age Issues in BDSM
- July 20, 2003 — Finding Your Inner Slut
- July 13, 2003 — Elaborate Scenes
- July 6, 2003 — Open discussion
- June 29, 2003 — Creative Cruelty
- June 22, 2003 — What Makes a Good Play Party
- June 15, 2003 — Being a Switch
- June 8, 2003 — More than One on One
- June 1, 2003 — Long Distance D/s Relationships
- May 25, 2003 — Early Interest — Things in Your Youth That Led You to BDSM
- May 18, 2003 — The Frantic Search for a Relationship
- May 11, 2003 — Dealing With Chronic Discipline Problems
- May 4, 2003 — The Journal as a Communications Tool
- April 27, 2003 — Branding and Piercing
- April 20, 2003 — First Experiences
- April 13, 2003 — Training Techniques
- April 6, 2003 — When You Want to Do Something and It Squicks Your Partner
- March 30, 2003 — Online fantasy or Online Classroom?
- March 23, 2003 — Pervertibles — Kinky Uses for Household Items
- March 16, 2003 — Emotions and Play
- March 9, 2003 — Swinging and BDSM
- March 2, 2003 — The Mental and the Physical
- February 23, 2003 — The Mainstreaming of BDSM
- February 16, 2003 — How Accepting Are You of Other People’s Kinks?
- February 9, 2003 — Submission: Obedience, Compliance… or Gift?
- February 2, 2003 — How to Survive the Loss of a BDSM Relationship
- January 26, 2003 — Doms Helping Doms
- January 19, 2003 — Confidentiality and Trust
- January 12, 2003 — BDSM and the Sacred – Connecting Kink and the Spiritual in Our Lives
- January 5, 2003 — Femdoms and Maledoms: Similarities and Differences
- December 29, 2002 — My Kinkiest Fantasy That Came True
- December 22, 2002 — Mind Fucks
- December 15, 2002 — BDSM in the New Millennium
- December 8, 2002 — Casual, Committed, or Somwhere In Between
- December 1, 2002 — Communicating During a Scene
- November 24, 2002 — Subspace — the Final Frontier?
- November 17, 2002 — One Dom, Multiple Subs — Building a ‘Stable’ Relationship
- November 10, 2002 — Consensual Embarrassment and Humiliation
- November 3, 2002 — Feminization
- October 27, 2002 — Punishment
- October 20, 2002 — Too Young, Too Old… Age Issues in BDSM
- October 13, 2002 — Finding Your Inner Slut
- October 6, 2002 — Roleplaying
- September 29, 2002 — What’s in Your Toybag?
- September 22, 2002 — Pushing Limits — When, How and Why
- September 15, 2002 — Bringing them Across — Introducing New People to the Scene
- September 8, 2002 — Public Play, Private Play… Differing Expectations
- July 28, 2002 — What is Submission
- July 21, 2002 — Open Discussion
- July 14, 2002 — D/s — Nature or Nurture?
- July 7, 2002 — How Accepting Are You of Other People’s Kinks?
- June 23, 2002 — The Nice Guy vs the Nasty Dom
- June 16, 2002 — Enlightening the Masses — Educating the Public About BDSM
- June 9, 2002 — Open Discussion
- June 2, 2002 — Exploring Limits
- May 26, 2002 — Open Discussion
- May 19, 2002 — Playpartners, Submissives and Slaves — How are they Different?
- May 12, 2002 — Open Discussion
- May 5, 2002 — Maintaining a D/s Relationship in a Household with Kids
- April 28, 2002 — Balancing Sexual Submission with Sexual Equality
- April 21, 2002 — Opening Night — Roleplaying and BDSM
- April 14, 2002 — “The Gorean Approach to D/s”
- April 7, 2002 — Learning the Ropes, Gaining Experience
- March 31, 2002 — Newbie Night — Bring Your Questions!
- March 24, 2002 — Having a D/s Relationship Outside of a Vanilla Marriage
- March 17, 2002 — D/s Fantasies vs D/s Realities
- March 10, 2002 — Sex and BDSM — Two Great Things That Go Great Together?
- March 3, 2002 — Monthly “newbie night”
- February 24, 2002 — Balancing D/s and Real Life
- February 17, 2002 — Training — What Does it Mean?
- February 10, 2002 — Communication: More Than Just Talk
- February 3, 2002 — Playparties
- January 27, 2002 — Symbols of Submission
- January 20, 2002 — Making it Real — Moving from Online to Real Life
- January 13, 2002 — S/M Burnout
- January 6, 2002 — Monthly unmoderated “newbie night”
- December 30, 2001 — (no discussion)
- December 23, 2001 — BDSM: What’s Love Got to Do With It?
- December 16, 2001 — Qualities of a Good Dom and Qualities of a Good Sub
- December 9, 2001 — Disabilities and BDSM
- December 2, 2001 — Newbie Night
- November 25, 2001 — Finding a Safe, Sane and Willing BDSM Partner
- November 18, 2001 — The Ins and Outs of the BDSM Lifestyle
- November 11, 2001 — The Art of the Deal — How to Negotiate a Scene with a New Partner
- June 24, 2001 — Elaborate Scenes
- June 17, 2001 — Roleplaying
- June 3, 2001 — Introducing New People to the Scene
- May 27, 2001 — Dealing with Disobedience
- May 20, 2001 — Creative Cruelty
- May 13, 2001 — Emotions in Submissives
- May 6, 2001 — Newbie Night
- April 29, 2001 — What Makes a Good Play Party
- April 22, 2001 — Open Discussion, unmoderated
- April 15, 2001 — Health Issues with Toys
- April 8, 2001 — Being a Switch
- April 1, 2001 — Newbie Night
- March 25, 2001 — Must I? …Negotiating Soft Limits
- March 18, 2001 — More than One on One
- March 11, 2001 — Long Distance D/s Relationships
- March 4, 2001 — Newbie Night
- February 25, 2001 — Things in Your Youth That Led You to BDSM
- February 18, 2001 — How to Combat ‘Dom Droop’
- February 11, 2001 — Can We Escape The Ghost of De Sade
- February 4, 2001 — Consensual Embarrassment and Humiliation
- January 28, 2001 — The Frantic Search for a Relationship
- January 21, 2001 — Dealing With Chronic Discipline Problems
- December 17, 2000 — Moving Too Fast/Moving Too Slow
- December 10, 2000 — What is ‘Kinky’?
- December 3, 2000 — Rights of Ownership
- November 19, 2000 — The Journal as a Communications Tool
- November 12, 2000 — Branding and Piercing
- November 5, 2000 — First Experiences
- October 29, 2000 — (Open Disucssion)
- October 22, 2000 — Training Techniques
- October 15, 2000 — Kinky Uses for Household Items
- October 8, 2000 — How Far is Too Far?
- October 1, 2000 — Risks of Cyberdomming, or Advantages and Disadvantages of BDSM Cyberplay
- September 24, 2000 — Decoy De Toy: Ways to Disguise O/our Playstuff
- September 17, 2000 — Swinging and BDSM
- September 10, 2000 — Community Etiquette
- September 3, 2000 — The Mental and the Physical
- August 27, 2000 — Finding Your Inner Slut
- August 20, 2000 — Ethics in BDSM
- August 13, 2000 — Whatever Were You Thinking?…Communication
- July 30, 2000 — What is ‘Normal’?
- July 23, 2000 — The Mainstreaming of BDSM
- July 16, 2000 — Safecalls
- July 9, 2000 — Overcoming the Stigma of ‘Masochism’
- July 2, 2000 — How to Negotiate a Scene with a New Partner
- June 18, 2000 — On the Nature of Nurture: the Influence of Societal Change on D/s Desires
- June 11, 2000 — How Accepting Are You of Other People’s Kinks?
- June 4, 2000 — Public Play, Private Play… Differing Expectations
- May 28, 2000 — Submission: Obedience, Compliance… or Gift?
- May 21, 2000 — Start with Respect: finding your Dom/me/sub mate
- May 14, 2000 — Nature or Nurture?
- May 7, 2000 — Who Is Really In Control… the Dom/mes or the Subs?
- April 30, 2000 — How to Survive the Loss of a BDSM Relationship
- April 23, 2000 — Doms Helping Doms
- April 16, 2000 — Why Does a Submissive Obey Their Master/Mistress?
- April 9, 2000 — When You Want to Do Something and It Squicks Your Partner
- April 2, 2000 — Connecting Kink and the Spiritual in Our Lives
- March 26, 2000 — Getting What You Want, Knowing What You Need
- March 19, 2000 — My Kinkiest Fantasy That Came True
- March 12, 2000 — Building a Broader D/s Community
- March 5, 2000 — Sex, Romance and D/s
- February 27, 2000 — Consent: When, Where, What, and How?
- February 20, 2000 — Casual, Committed, or Somwhere In Between
- February 13, 2000 — Pushing the Right Buttons
- February 6, 2000 — Mind Fucks
- January 30, 2000 — Can a Sub Be Too Possessive
- January 23, 2000 — The Gorean Lifestyle
- January 16, 2000 — Femdoms and Maledoms: Similarities and Differences
- January 9, 2000 — Building a ‘Stable’ Relationship
- January 2, 2000 — BDSM in the New Millennium
- December 26, 1999 — Communicating During a Scene
- December 19, 1999 — Too Young, Too Old… Age Issues in BDSM
- December 12, 1999 — Roleplaying and BDSM
- December 5, 1999 — Day to Day BDSM
- November 28, 1999 — Being a Single Submissive in a Healthy Way
- November 21, 1999 — D/s and Family Times
- November 14, 1999 — Punishment
- November 7, 1999 — Rules in BDSM
- October 31, 1999 — the Final Frontier
- October 24, 1999 — Maintaining a D/s Relationship in a Household with Kids
- October 17, 1999 — Romance and D/s
- October 10, 1999 — Educating the Public about BDSM
- October 3, 1999 — Balancing Sexual Submission with Sexual Equality
- September 26, 1999 — Virtual Collaring… Too Easily Given and Given Up?
- September 19, 1999 — Playparties… What Do I Expect?
- September 12, 1999 — The Nice Guy vs the Nasty Dom
- September 5, 1999 — How are they Different?
- August 29, 1999 — Learning the Ropes, Gaining Experience
- August 22, 1999 — The Ramifications of Being a Dom When Dealing with Other People
- August 15, 1999 — The Gorean Approach to D/s
- August 8, 1999 — Having a D/s Relationship Outside of a Vanilla Marriage
- August 1, 1999 — Building a Scene
- July 25, 1999 — Balancing D/s and Real Life
- July 18, 1999 — D/s Fantasies vs D/s Realities
- July 11, 1999 — What Qualities are Attractive in a Dom or sub?
- July 4, 1999 — Two Great Things That Go Great Together?
- June 20, 1999 — Telling Your Friends (and Family?)
- June 13, 1999 — Is it a Gift?
- June 6, 1999 — What Does it Mean?
- May 30, 1999 — Moving from Online to Real Life
- May 9, 1999 — Symbols of Submission
- May 2, 1999 — BDSM: What’s Love Got to Do With It?
- April 25, 1999 — BDSM in your life: Integrated or Separate?
- April 18, 1999 — Qualities of a good Dom and Qualities of a good sub
- April 11, 1999 — Finding a Safe, Sane and Willing BDSM Partner